Before I dive into unpacking this phrase with you guys, I am inclined to remind you that you are about to get the “Unplugged Joycy” – direct, unfiltered and to the point. For those that know me in person, this would consist of a calm, eyes-locked-in, admittedly intense demeanor as I deliver this phrase, “Do not compare yourself to the devil to make yourself look good!” I’m getting fired up even writing this!
What do I mean? I find that we can easily short change ourselves by comparing ourselves to mediocrity in order to boost our self-image. We don’t ever hear the phrase, “Aim low!” So why would we entertain a thought that allows us to compare ourselves with mediocrity to make ourselves feel good. Be honest! Assess yourself! Identify your strengths and your weaknesses. Set your goals, make a plan, give yourself grace when you mess up, but KEEP MOVING! Be the best you that you can be and you will be surprised at what you can achieve. You know your gifts, you know your talents, you know what you are naturally drawn to — develop those and see where that leads. Do not fear the unknown. Today was unknown until you got here and you survived it!
Often times when we are fearful of stepping into the places where opportunity has been created. We create excuses to rationalize and justify our stagnancy. BUT please know you are only holding yourself back from the best of wherever and whatever God has for you…i.e…if God has called you to the mountaintop, do not make your tent by the hillside and call it cozy.
I am speaking from experience on this and likely why I am so passionate to motivate you all. If this describes you, know that I have been where you are and I challenge you to join me on the other side. You can be fearful as long as you move through your fear and press on – your best life is yet to come. Go seize it! Start by taking one courageous step at a time :).
One of the byproducts as a therapist is becoming a coach in someone else’s life. I take this role seriously, recognizing that I need to be an example in leading others. Let’s be honest, most people are not going to seek training from someone who has not mastered or understands what it takes to accomplish a goal. I personally learn best from those who have walked this life before me; those who have been where I’ve been and can teach from experience how to come out the other side. I do know enough that I do not need to learn every lesson experientially before I “get it”. Lord knows it is not every pain known to man that I desire to endure!
Today I am going to take a page from my book in how I became more productive in my life – not busy, but more productive. Let me ask you this question,”What are you doing if you’re not doing…?” I learned in my mid-twenties (I know most of you thought I was still there, you can continue to believe that if you must :)), anyway I learned in my mid to late twenties (now I am further aging myself), that I have the capacity to become very busy doing a whole lot of NOTHING – very busy. Meanwhile, life was passing me by and nothing of value was being accomplished…dare I say nothing that God had been calling me to do was being accomplished. And if we are honest with ourselves, we are really the only ones who know this truth. We can put on a great game and make pebbles look like pearls if we want to, but at the end of the day, we know that we will not be content until we take up the call to step into our purpose. In seeking to further myself, I learned to publish my goals – to take them out of my head and externalize them on paper, on vision boards, etc., outlining tangible stepping stones to achieve these. I had to become accountable to that question, “What am I doing, if I am not doing…the things that I was created to do?” The restructuring resulted in me feeling content, accomplishing more things – eternal things, legacy building things and ironically having more time to just be. I encourage you all to ask yourselves this question and I would love to hear from those who have figured out creative ways to organize yourselves and those who are ready to step up and take on the challenge of becoming the best you!