What makes a friend a good friend? I have posed this question to the girls that I mentor. Today I celebrate my best friend’s birthday and I will share with you why I choose to call her one of my favorites.
We met in middle school during a church event. Now I could say that we connected because we were praying together or singing holy hymns in the choir :), but the real answer is that we connected because we stood out. We were eleven and twelve and were actually part of a children’s choir (lol!), but there was something during that evening’s practice that seemed hokey. We didn’t know each other, yet our knowing eyes met from across the room and we knew in that moment that we were on the same page — and we’ve been partners in adventure ever since. As a tribute to friendship, I am going to share with you why I cherish ours.
1. It is lasting. Our friendship has spanned decades. We have never attended the same schools, not always lived in the same states or even the same coast, yet we have always remained close friends throughout the years. She has made herself accessible to me and I to her.
2. It is trustworthy. I know without a doubt that I can trust Christine with anything, and I mean anything. This not only speaks to the friendship that we have, but to her character. She is trustworthy and operates at a level that is noble and honors God. Nobody is perfect, but I need people in my life who seek after God’s best for their own. Which bring me to the next quality…
3. It sharpens me. I have been graciously blessed with many friends and great friendships, however, the ones I hold dearest are the friends who take the time to speak truth into my life. I learn from them as much as I laugh with them. They can be trusted to receive the full range of my emotions and speak the truth to me as it needs to be spoken…and not be fearful to do so. This is the epitome of a true friend. They weigh the risk of a temporary rift in harmony for the sake of God’s best for me and I love them for it.
4. It is honest. I can be vulnerable, transparent and loved unconditionally, while knowing that my friend will tell me if I am off track.
5. It is encouraging. For as long as I can remember, Christine has been my biggest cheerleader. She believes the best in me and for me. She encourages and expects me to conquer the world. I have been incredibly blessed to have gleaned a few other pom-pom waving, megaphone blasting, hearts of gold along the way that have in their own way championed for my success as well. The belief that my friends have had in me, have divinely pushed me out of my comfort zones in ways they may never know and for that I am eternally grateful.
Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity. – Khalil Gibran